Spanked to Tears – Chris & Aiden – Hanging Up – Gay Romance, Domestic Discipline

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I have personally experienced the difference between being spanked without and with an emotional connection. For me there was a huge difference. There needs to be considerable embarrassment or humbling involved. There are a lot of ways we get there at different times but being bared and spanked OtK (however awkward) is very embarrassing for me as well as making me feel out of control. An old wives’ tale is: ‘Spank a boy to tears.’ It sounds innocent enough, but the truth is, it’s illegal in some countries. For example, Bolivia, Benin, and Brazil make spanking illegal. Other countries, such as Cape Verde, Denmark, Costa Rica, and the Dominican Republic, do not allow spanking. Here are some of the reasons why spanking is a bad idea. Mood is an important variable independent of everything else. I have to be somewhat subdues, remorseful or contemplative when the spanking begins if it is to end in tears

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So while I don't think the goal of any spanking should be for it to end with the spankee in tears, for me the goal of a spanking relationship is for there to be occasions where the spankee can regularly be vulnerable and have a deep cathartic cry. Despite the common misconception that spanking does not affect a child’s development. Recent research shows that spanked children tend to have lower IQs than children who were redirected through other guidance methods. Additionally, stress hurts the brain and may result in zero learning. Moreover, it is often accompanied by pain and humiliation, leading to a painful childhood. Spanking a child The uncomfortable truth (in more ways than one) is that symbolism and a dash of theatre only get you so far. It’s called corporal punishment for a reason. Unless you’re a complete ogre, you’re going to have decidedly mixed feelings about spanking your child. On the one hand, you’ve made a (hopefully) calm and conscious decision that they are in need of a particular type of discipline, and in your heart of hearts, you believe it necessary to administer it. But failing to correct a child effectively inevitably leads to a further, avoidable punishment. As my mum used to say about spanking: “If you make a proper job of it, you won’t have to do it that often.”It’s never been important to me, or a goal to make someone cry. Many don’t cry for a variety of reasons. Some have trouble letting go, some are embarrassed to cry, sometimes it just takes awhile for the spanker/spankee relationship to deepen. Then just knowing they disappointed their spanker may bring them to tears. I would never keep spanking after I felt it was enough, just to get someone to cry. Knowing when to stop is extremely important. I tell a story too, but my story is not funny. My story is about pain. My story is about the messages spanking taught me—messages they never intended to send.

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Besides being physically painful, spanking a child to tears can also teach them not to do something they shouldn’t, like hitting the furniture. It can also teach them to speak up and turn away when a parent doesn’t want them to. It will also teach them to resist when you tell them to. The key is to know when and how to use the spanking technique positively. It is best to spank when the child is expressing defiant behavior. I walked in to the living room and saw all their bare asses on display ,they all screamed in embarrassment ,but dad told them not to move,I stood 3 feet away while dad asked each girl for their number. There will be tears. And mum or dad will have to harden their hearts and continue to administer the discipline until they are sure those tears are genuinely remorseful rather than the customary waterworks.Thank you all for such thoughtful responses. I am reading you all to say that achieving tears either as spanker or spankee should never be an intentional goal...and I guess that is the case with my husband and I. If that happens...well then it does. I just know that the "release", or the more fancy word you much smarter ones use..." catharsis"...is something special to me...to "us" really. My husband tells me when I have those times of free flowing tears and sobbing...he feels very very close to me and feels like he shares the emotions I am expressing thru my crying. Often he cries with me. And I feel especially very very close to him as I cry into his chest or onto his shoulder or lap... or he kisses me while I cry things out and strokes my hair...cups my sore bottom in his hands. I know we all have concerns that perhaps crying is an indication of abuse, but we all cry for various reasons...not just physical or emotional pain...many of which you have mentioned in your insightful comments. We can cry for joy...for hurt...for love...for regret...for loss...for healing and release from guilt. I think when I find myself caught up in the emotions of our disciplinary relationship...for me my crying is perhaps a mix of all those emotions...and maybe some others I do not consciously even recognize. So...for me crying is not an indication of abuse brought on me. But...I realize this is largely due to the fact I trust my husband completely to understand my needs....avtrust he has earned and proven out.

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While parents do have the right to use physical force to correct bad behavior, others do not. A child’s age, physical condition, location of the injury, and other factors may affect the amount of force a parent or caregiver should use. While this method can be effective, it may cross the line into child abuse. While a swat to the tears may cause temporary discomfort, it can also inflict lasting injury or severe harm. Whether you want to teach your wife to follow your lead or create a softer environment, spanking to tears is a great way to get her to follow you. However, it is essential to keep in mind that it is perfectly acceptable to punish her to tears as long as she is willing to cry and change. Spanking to tears Personally, when I began this lifestyle 14 years ago, it honestly took a lot to bring me to full blown crying or bawling or prolonged sobs. I definitely felt the pain and submission, but not such deep "release" as I have come to know now, if you will...so that tears flowed abundantly. It was more like cries of anger and frustration..of just me I haven't cried from a spanking in over 20 years and that last time was from four hard, fast swats with his hand over my clothes. Now, I know there is a school of thought among some parents that spankings can be almost purely symbolic in nature – that a mild tap on the hand or bum can register your disapproval of your child’s behaviour and that will be sufficient to turn things around.Christians should never be misled by “experts” and should be guided by Scripture when deciding whether to spank their children. The Bible prescribes corporal punishment and cautions against abandoning it. Besides, facts usually agree with the Word of God. Here are some sound tips on how to spank your child. Keep in mind that if you spank your child, make sure it is done privately and without anger.